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"OIS- You and Your Family" with Kellie Clark
In this episode of The BOLO Podcast, Mike, Marc, and Kellie Clark are addressing what goes through the minds of officers and wives in officer-involved shootings. We often don't take into account how OIS' effect spouses of officers, Kellie is giving her perspective on the mindset of the wife and how to remain supportive of those who choose to go into the law enforcement profession.
We answer questions from viewers on FaceBook Live about this weeks topic and go over what's being discussed in the news.
Summary of discussion with Kellie Clark:
- Kellie's new macros are 1982 calories per day.
- Kellie says that her husband kept a lot of the calls he would get, on or off duty, private.
- Mike claims that crazy or somber calls that he gets on the job are not shared with his wife because they become routine.
- When recording Live, there are often several obstacles dealing with technical issues.
- SRO was doing squats in full uniform at a high school with the students watching.
- Marc feels like he would put himself in harm's way over an officer with a family.
- Families have to understand that you are going to miss out on holidays and several events due to scheduling.
- Don't rely on alcohol to get you through stresses of the job.
- The stress of the job is only one part of the drinking.
- When your husband or wife who is an officer comes home from their shift, don't complain about their line of work or hit them with a bunch of hard-hitting questions.
- The outlook of the officer tends to harden over time because cops see things that people don't typically see. Officer's need to ground themselves and be human.
- Don't take the job home. Don't take the stressors, politics, issues, calls, etc., but you're still a cop, and the mentality doesn't leave you.
- Kellie says to find healthy coping mechanisms to deal with tough calls you experienced that day.
- Working out mitigates the stressors of the job significantly.
- Shout out to BigFatLoser who began his fitness journey after being thrown off of a building by being overpowered by a perp.
- Officer's in Sacramento shot and killed unarmed Stephon Clark when they mistook his cell phone for a gun.
- Mike says that we need to educate people on how to act when encountering the police and you should oblige with the protocol.
- Marc will follow through with what he needs to do as an officer but remembers that he needs to work as though someone is watching all the time because they are. If you do that 90% of the time you will be in the right.
- If you are trying to injure an officer severely, kill them, or pull a weapon on them; then it is justified for officers to use their gun.
- Report of a runaway girl at a church in Georgia resulting in a brawl.
- Shout out to FirstResponseApparel.
Q: What goes through the mind of a wife of a police officer?
K: She didn't sleep. As a spouse, you want to be supportive, so some of the struggles she kept to herself. Given the task force her husband was on, she knew the danger factor. It helped her to get to know the people that were on his team and invested in equipment to help out officers, that the department didn't provide.
MB: You cannot prepare emotionally as a spouse or family member of an officer. Remember that the officer is getting proper and continuous training and investing in gear. Have open communication and put your family in front of the department.
MM: Be prepared that your spouse is going to miss some family events. Make sure that you give adequate time to request time off and more than likely the department will try to work with you, don't wait until the last minute to ask. Always have your family to fall back on.
Q: How do you prepare for an OIS?
MM: You start preparing for an OIS the first day of training. He is constantly running scenarios through his head. "What if he gets shot and he's by himself? What if the guy in the crosswalk starts shooting at him?" etc. You have to have the mindset. Calm down and speak clearly, if they can't hear you they won't help you.
MB: OIS will affect you mentally, regardless of how well trained you are. After Mike's first experience it affected him significantly. For the second one, he knew how his response would be, so he found positive things like reaching out to his family and going to the gym to cope.
You can follow the hosts on Instagram @isocialcop @idigitalcop and @kellie.clark_fitness
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